If Hollywood were to just throw naked people in front of the screen with no warning, audiences would certainly be turned off. On the other hand, if you introduce an attractive man and an attractive woman and gradually place them closer and closer together, then tragically tear them apart, then bring them back together … this time a little closer … perhaps wearing a little less … then you’ve got a riveted audience. Whatever your views on Hollywood are, they’ve got the formula for peeking human interest down to a science, and couples could benefit by learning this formula for themselves.
In addition to the advice in the previous article about making sex an all-day affair, in the bedroom itself, the rules of sexual tension still apply. Rather than just tearing off each other’s clothes and going straight for the private parts, you’ll ironically experience more gratification by holding back and following a naturally-mounting rhythm. It’s a bit like building a camp fire, starting with kindling and gentle breaths, then adding more wood only as the flame increases. Don’t worry, if you building a good fire, the time will come when the flames are so hot and strong that anything goes and pure indulgence is yours to enjoy, followed by an amazing climax. But if you jump the gun, chances are you’ll never achieve this state.
Here’s a simple exercise, a game to help you and your spouse develop the art of sexual tension and forbearance. Get a stop watch or reference a clock. With all of your clothes on, for sixty seconds, do nothing but look and talk to each other. Then, for the next sixty seconds, go to town. You can hug, you can kiss, you can even start to undress each other. But when sixty seconds is up, it’s back to “just friends.” No touching. None. When sixty more seconds have gone by, it’s time for another wild indulgence. Keep up this pattern until you want your spouse so badly that you can’t stand it anymore. Behold the power of sexual tension.
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